The definition of the word complicit is being involved with others in an illegal activity or wrongdoing, according to Merriam Webster Dictionary.

People who are willing to associate with individuals who they know for a fact or who they have good reason to suspect they are harming others while treating them well are a particular kind of social predator.

Niccolo Machiavelli called such people fickle.

Fickle people — people who go along to get along — are complicit in crimes that others commit.

They epitomize the term Flying Monkeys in general.

Helping other people commit a crime while feigning innocence or a lack of responsibility is like the getaway car driver who helped plot a heist, then transported his worker bees to a bank and sat dutifully in the car with it running outside the front door telling police he had nothing to do with the actual crime.

When someone knows, for instance, that their adult son or adult  daughter is mistreating their love interests or the grandchildren or putting them at risk of being harmed due to a parent’s lifestyle activities and they do nothing, they are morally and arguably civically and or criminally liable of being complicit in the mistreatment of their Cluster B offspring’s victims.

People who lie for their friends are not only complicit with enabling abuse to occur, they abuse the hospitality of all they mislead in attempts to seek the favor of the person who they have been asked or compelled by coercion or bribery to lie for.

They are complicit in enabling other people being mistreated to the point of being willing to abuse people’s hospitality and faith in their word as well.

Adult Children and Co-Dependent Teens or intelligent adolescents who know a parent is a criminal, socially abusive, or a pathological liar are likely to act as if there is nothing wrong with that parent’s behavior.

In fact, in most cases when a child has been groomed to enable a profoundly toxic parent they are not only complicit, they border on Sychophantic at times — with most prone to showering the more mature (meaning older) toxic role model with attention and praise while seeking reward for complicit behavior.

People who know someone is doing something wrong but they fail to blow the whistle for fear of being targeted themselves for social abuse or mistreatment by a social aggressor or a toxic peer group are passively complicit in situational abuse.

They abuse the person who they fail to defend if and when they know that person has been mistreated, socially neglected, or abused.

Understanding that being an Abuse Enabler is a choice is important for every human alive to realize.

Abusing the hospitality and good will of other people or targeting rivals or people who are not useful means for abuse and mistreatment is a Cluster B activity.

If you are complicit and look the other way when a person is abusing or neglecting someone other than you, it might be a great time to do some serious soul-searching and self-reflecting about what kind of person you choose to be in life.

We are all who we decide to be. Some of us are complicit — but know this: none of us are morally or biologically compelled to be.

Most people who are complicit claim they believe they have no other choice.

Their earliest childhood caregivers tend to groom them to think in ways that are only vertical — leading them to develop a false impression of the human world that includes social competitive behavior and people believing everyone is Hobbesian.

That’s ridiculous gaslighting. Believing such nonsense and overt hooey and acting as if it is socially or medically true about all human beings does one thing only.

It grooms children to become adults willing to behave in complicit ways and to pervasively enable stronger social predators who tell them things like to get ahead in the world there always has to be someone made into a winner while everyone is subdivided into the category of losers.

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