Abusive Expectations

Abusive expectations are a form of emotional abuse. Examples of mind control tactics an abusive person purposefully engages in in order to harm, frustrate, confuse, or otherwise addle a People Pleaser or Narcissistic Abuse Target include but are not limited to any one or all or the following mind games an Abuser plays with willing targets:

* The other person places unreasonable demands on you and wants you to put everything else aside to tend to their needs.
* It could be a demand for constant attention or a requirement that you spend all your free time with the person.
* No matter how much you give, it’s never enough.
* You are subjected to constant criticism, and you are constantly berated because you don’t fulfill all this person’s needs.

In some cases, the bar is set so high for an abuse target like a spouse or child to perform that no matter how hard they strive to please their Abuser, there’s no functional way for them to be able to satisfactorily perform.

Put into a no-win situation, the targeted person can try to please the narcissistic predator as much as they like, but the predator’s Machiavellian nature sets the mind game bar purposefully at an unmeetable or irrationally demanding level.

This is done to ensure the Cluster B personality remains in control of the social dynamic between them and the manipulated or “conned” person who is striving to please them while undermining the self-esteem and self-confidence of the oppressed (who typically by default questions their own ability to perform as well as perceived themselves as failures).


Abusive Expectations a form of Narcissistic Abuse
Parents with Abusive Expectations of their children oftentimes land their kids in psychotherapy. Spouses who set unmeetable expectations for their love interest or partner typically end up divorced.
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